Pleasure has no expiration date.

I'm Gabriella Espinosa. I host Pleasure in the Pause, weekly conversations with doctors and experts about pleasure, desire and feeling fully alive in midlife.

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My body telling me something true and beautiful and entirely mine.

Gabriella, on Pleasure in the Pause, Ep 99, remembering Ravel's Boléro with her father

It started with a quiet I couldn't explain.

That was me.

Nobody around me was talking about menopause yet, so I had no words for any of it. I thought the flatness was just who I was now.

Then I learned my body was still talking.

Once I understood that, everything changed. If I didn't want sex, that was information. If I felt flat, that was information.

My body hadn't gone quiet. I'd stopped understanding what it was saying. Learning that language back is the whole work.

Now I do this out loud, for other women.

You get to want things again.

I work with women one to one. I host a podcast where doctors, educators and founders say the things nobody said to me.

I sit on the board of Let's Talk Menopause, a nonprofit for menopause education and advocacy. I do all of it from Austin, Texas.

I believe pleasure is a longevity practice.

Even numbness is information. Your body keeps talking, even when you stop listening. Flatness is a message. So is not wanting sex. So is feeling like a stranger in your own skin. I teach women how to read those messages and answer them.

  1. Connect to your body. Your body is talking to you all day. The work is learning its language again.
  2. Understand your pleasure. Pleasure is the pathway. You don't have to earn it first.
  3. Find your voice. If something in you whispers “I miss that part of myself”, listen to it.
  4. Ask for what you need. Saying it out loud, to a doctor or a partner, is a skill. You build it one conversation at a time.
  5. Keep feeling alive. Aliveness, choice and confidence, for as many years as you get.
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