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Straight answers to the questions women ask me about midlife, desire and their bodies. Each one draws on real episodes of the podcast.

Kat FarrantsQuotes Kat Farrants Start here Identity

Feeling Disconnected From Your Body in Perimenopause

The distance you feel from your own body in perimenopause is real, it has a name, and it is not a sign that something is wrong with you.

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Gaby NataleReinvention

Why Do I Feel Invisible in Midlife?

Feeling invisible in midlife is common, and it doesn't start with other people. It often starts in the body. Here is why, and what actually helps.

6 min read · draws on 7 episodesQuotes Gaby Natale Dr. Kelly CaspersonNumbness & Shutdown

Why Do I Feel Numb During Intimacy

Feeling numb during intimacy is common in midlife and it is not a sign that something is broken in you. Here is what it means and where to start.

6 min read · draws on 5 episodesQuotes Dr. Kelly Casperson Gabriella EspinosaBoundaries

Is It Selfish to Care About My Own Pleasure?

No, it isn't. Caring about your own pleasure isn't selfish, and the people around you benefit when you do. Here's why that's true, and where to start.

6 min read · draws on 5 episodesFrom my own episodes Marcella HillEnergy & Vitality

How to Feel Alive Again in Midlife

Feeling flat or checked out in midlife usually means you've gone quiet in your own body. Coming back into it is what brings you back to life.

6 min read · draws on 6 episodesDraws on Marcella Hill's episode Sheri WinstonSensation

Why Does Sex Feel Different Now?

Arousal, tissue and timing change with hormones in midlife. Here is what is actually different in your body, and why, plainly explained.

6 min read · draws on 6 episodesQuotes Sheri Winston Dr. Aviva RommEmbodiment

How to Reconnect With Your Body in Midlife

How to reconnect with your body in midlife: pause, notice what you feel, name it, then add slow movement and touch. Real practices, not theory.

7 min read · draws on 5 episodesQuotes Dr. Aviva Romm Dr. Lori BrottoDesire

Why Don't I Want Sex Anymore

Not wanting sex anymore in midlife is common. Desire often changes shape rather than disappearing, and for many women it returns differently than before.

7 min read · draws on 6 episodesQuotes Dr. Lori Brotto Colette Jane FehrCommunication

How Do I Talk to My Partner About What Has Changed

Practical ways to open the conversation with your partner about what's changed in your body, without dropping it mid-argument or turning it into a fight.

6 min read · draws on 4 episodesDraws on Colette Jane Fehr's episode Dr. Emily JameaIntimacy

How Do I Feel Close to My Partner Again

Feeling distant from your partner in midlife is common. Closeness often has to be rebuilt outside the bedroom first, in small, ordinary moments.

6 min read · draws on 4 episodesQuotes Dr. Emily Jamea Kelley WorkmanConnection

Why Do I Feel So Alone in Midlife?

Feeling alone in midlife is common, and it is usually not about being unloved. Here is why connection changes shape and what actually helps rebuild it.

7 min read · draws on 6 episodesQuotes Kelley Workman Dee HartmannSexual Health

Why Does Sex Hurt Now?

Pain during sex in midlife usually traces to tissue or pelvic floor changes, and it can be mistaken for other conditions. It has real causes.

5 min read · draws on 4 episodesQuotes Dee Hartmann Dr. Nerina RamlakhanSafety Before Desire

Why Can't I Relax Enough to Enjoy Sex

Your body needs to feel safe before it can feel desire. If stress or survival mode has taken over, relaxing into sex will not happen by trying harder.

6 min read · draws on 5 episodesQuotes Dr. Nerina Ramlakhan
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