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Why do I feel invisible in midlife?

We've been given a script about aging that says we become less visible, less relevant and less central to the story. Society tells midlife women to fade into the background and stop taking up space. What helps me is asking myself daily what would feel good right now. Sometimes the answer is five minutes of sunshine on my face or the perfect cup of tea.

Pleasure isn't frivolous, it's fundamental.Gabriella, host of Pleasure in the Pause, on Episode 57

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Society tells us that women in midlife are supposed to fade into the background, become invisible, stop taking up space.

Gabriella Espinosa, on Episode 57 of Pleasure in the Pause

We've earned the right to take up space, to be seen and heard, to pursue what lights us up from the inside.

Gabriella Espinosa, on Episode 57 of Pleasure in the Pause

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Article · 6 min read

Why Do I Feel Invisible in Midlife?

Feeling invisible in midlife is common, and it doesn't start with other people. It often starts in the body. Here is why, and what actually helps.

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Why do I feel invisible in midlife?

Feeling invisible in midlife is a real and common experience. It often begins with how the world treats you, then settles into your own body, showing up as feeling less noticed, less inhabited, less trusted. The shift can be undone. Presence and visibility can return, and they usually start in your body first. Read the article

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