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Why do I feel disconnected from my body in perimenopause?

Many of us walk through our days feeling like a stranger in our own skin. Your whole life, hormones have been orchestrating your mood, your energy and your very sense of self. When you don't feel like yourself during menopause, your body is speaking to you. Try this: gently shake your hands, arms, shoulders, hips and whole body to bring yourself back into your body.

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Episode 97 · Apr 1, 2026 · 17:09

This Is 60: A New Way to Step Into This Decade

This is not a list of anti-aging tips. This is a celebration of what it means to grow into yourself, more rooted, more unapologetic, and more alive than ever, while also being real about the moments when the old stories still creep in.

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Feeling Disconnected From Your Body in Perimenopause

The distance you feel from your own body in perimenopause is real, it has a name, and it is not a sign that something is wrong with you.

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Feeling disconnected from your body in perimenopause

Feeling disconnected from your body in perimenopause is common and it is not imagined. Hormonal change affects mood, memory, sleep and sensation, so the body that once felt familiar can start to feel unfamiliar. Clinicians have a name for it. It is a recognized part of the transition, not a personal failing, and the connection can be rebuilt. Read the article

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